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Unsuccessful suicide is almost always a cry for help. Last week, my friend's sister (I'm being intentionally vague as not to cause any additional repercussions) attempted suicide. Unfortunately I cannot go into much detail here. Her parents decided not to tell my friend about it. The parents, in this situation, are definitely part of the problem. They refuse to accept the fact that their daughter has a serious problem and that their family is dysfunctional. The father, when once confronted with the issue of family dysfunction, defended the family dynamic by responding that at least he wasn't an alcoholic. Comparing your situation to a bleaker one is a definite way to remain in denial.
My friend's sister (I'll call her "G" for simplicity's sake), lives at home with her parents. She's over the age of 21 and legally free to do as she pleases. G is crying out for help. She is in dire need of sympathy and attention; neither of which she is getting at home. My friend (whom I'll call "B"), wants her sister to come to California and stay with her. Their parents disagree, and feel that she'll be just fine where she is.
It is sad, and deeply frightening to me, that a young woman could lose her life because her parents are too vain to admit that their family has problems. B suffered from severe depression as well, but she was able to overcome it after moving away from her parents and being allowed to become her own person. The sheer vanity and folly demonstrated by her parents' behavior are shocking to me. Again, I cannot go into any detail, but I find it difficult to comprehend their actions. G needs an immediate change in her life. First, she needs psychological treatment; and I don't mean medication. Second she needs a caring and sympathetic home life. She needs to be told and shown that she is loved and appreciated. Third, she needs a fresh start. In both my own life, and B's, that was the turning point. A change of scenery allows one to refocus and discover who they are.
I know that this article is a bit difficult to follow. I apologize for that. I am not able to be more specific at this time.
To G, if you read this, I'd like to tell you that you are loved. B is scared to death that she is going to lose you. You are her sister and her friend, and she wants you to be safe and happy. You are not alone. Others have been where you are now. I've fought my own battles with depression and darkness. I still do. I know it's not easy, but it's not hopeless either. Please seriously consider your sister's offer and come to California for a new start. It'll be tough, but you won't be alone.
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